"Abraham Lincoln is acknowledged as one of America's greatest presidents. Here is a brief summary of his career:
1831 - Failed in business
1832 - Defeated for legislature
1833 - Failed in business again
1834 - Elected to legislature
1835 - Sweetheart died
1836 - Had nervous breakdown
1838 - Defeated for speaker
1840 - Defeated for elector
1843 - Defeated for congressional nomination
1846 - Elected to Congress
1848 - Defeated for Congress
1855 - Defeated for Senate
1856 - Defeated for Vice President
1859 - Defeated for Senate
1860 - Elected President of the United States
The model Mr. Lincoln gave us with his persistence is one we can remember in the face of our own setbacks. And what is most wondrous of all is that persistence is a quality that we ourselves control. You, and only you, can decide whether you will stay the course."
Excerpt taken from "Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court" by John Wooden
Monday, July 13, 2015
Thursday, April 23, 2015
Northland Changed My Life
I've been away from Northland for 5 years, but I realize that a piece of my heart will always be there. There have been so many people from that place that God has used in my life to change my heart and help me grow as a follower of Jesus Christ.
I came in as a freshman in 2006 with a bitter heart and a lacking desire to be at a "Bible College." I had the opportunity to play golf for Coach Dennis Scott and I did everything I could to be the best golfer I could be. Health issues and a bad attitude kept me from being the best, but Coach Scott was always there to encourage me and point me in the right direction. He was a great coach and a great adviser throughout my college years. I'm thankful for Coach Scott.
There was one golf trip that Coach Scott couldn't go on, so coach Pete Wehry took us instead. Coach Wehry was the Dean of Students at the time and I was lucky enough to draw the short straw and share a hotel room with him. The first night I was reading a coaching book called "Wooden" and that was enough to spark a conversation with this Peter guy. Ever since that trip, Coach Wehry has been one of my best friends and wisest mentors. I couldn't even count the number of times that he opened his office door to me just to hang out or do homework. Many of those times turned into discipleship sessions where I was struggling and cried my heart out to him. He just listened and then would point me in the right direction and pray with me. He gave me my first coaching "job" and has been there for me ever since. A group of us basketball guys used to skip "freshman seminar" and go over to Joel Widmer's house and watch TV. One day we skipped and Coach Wehry was speaking that day. He talked to us - we never skipped again. He was the true definition of a coach. I'm thankful for Coach Wehry.
In 2007 Coach Wehry took over as the head men's basketball coach and athletic director, thus leaving his post as the Dean of Students. The guy that took over for him was Paul Whitt. I am the luckiest student alive to have had these two men as Dean of Students because there is no doubt in my mind that I would've been kicked out of Northland about 20x if it wasn't for these two guys believing in me. No one else could have understood why we had to miss curfew...by 7 hours....on our way back to campus from the Sweet 16 in Detroit. He also had this amazing "man cave" at his house and I'm not sure if there is a person I have watched more sporting events with than this man. His family took me in and made me feel like their own son. I can't even express how grateful I am for Coach Whitt and his family. I'm thankful for Coach Whitt.
At Northland, I built relationships with people who are my lifelong friends. They grew with me and challenged me in every aspect of my life. My best friend, Nathan Pettit is getting married in July. He was the best man in my wedding and now I am honored to be the best man in his. I still remember the first time I met him, but I'm going to save that story for my best man speech. He is the true definition of a friend. I'm thankful for Nathan.
These stories could go on for ever because there were so many amazing people at Northland. The people there are what made Northland special. I could go on and on about the countless people that have impacted my life and remain close friends. All of us were challenged by the word of God every day by people who genuinely cared for us. We were around gospel-centered people constantly and were loved by everyone on that campus. My life changed because of Northland and the people that were there. It's hard to hear about the adversity they are facing right now, but I'm thankful that the heart of Northland will never be closed. That university loved and served me well and in return I was taught how to serve and love others. I'm thankful for Northland.
I came in as a freshman in 2006 with a bitter heart and a lacking desire to be at a "Bible College." I had the opportunity to play golf for Coach Dennis Scott and I did everything I could to be the best golfer I could be. Health issues and a bad attitude kept me from being the best, but Coach Scott was always there to encourage me and point me in the right direction. He was a great coach and a great adviser throughout my college years. I'm thankful for Coach Scott.
There was one golf trip that Coach Scott couldn't go on, so coach Pete Wehry took us instead. Coach Wehry was the Dean of Students at the time and I was lucky enough to draw the short straw and share a hotel room with him. The first night I was reading a coaching book called "Wooden" and that was enough to spark a conversation with this Peter guy. Ever since that trip, Coach Wehry has been one of my best friends and wisest mentors. I couldn't even count the number of times that he opened his office door to me just to hang out or do homework. Many of those times turned into discipleship sessions where I was struggling and cried my heart out to him. He just listened and then would point me in the right direction and pray with me. He gave me my first coaching "job" and has been there for me ever since. A group of us basketball guys used to skip "freshman seminar" and go over to Joel Widmer's house and watch TV. One day we skipped and Coach Wehry was speaking that day. He talked to us - we never skipped again. He was the true definition of a coach. I'm thankful for Coach Wehry.
In 2007 Coach Wehry took over as the head men's basketball coach and athletic director, thus leaving his post as the Dean of Students. The guy that took over for him was Paul Whitt. I am the luckiest student alive to have had these two men as Dean of Students because there is no doubt in my mind that I would've been kicked out of Northland about 20x if it wasn't for these two guys believing in me. No one else could have understood why we had to miss curfew...by 7 hours....on our way back to campus from the Sweet 16 in Detroit. He also had this amazing "man cave" at his house and I'm not sure if there is a person I have watched more sporting events with than this man. His family took me in and made me feel like their own son. I can't even express how grateful I am for Coach Whitt and his family. I'm thankful for Coach Whitt.
At Northland, I built relationships with people who are my lifelong friends. They grew with me and challenged me in every aspect of my life. My best friend, Nathan Pettit is getting married in July. He was the best man in my wedding and now I am honored to be the best man in his. I still remember the first time I met him, but I'm going to save that story for my best man speech. He is the true definition of a friend. I'm thankful for Nathan.
These stories could go on for ever because there were so many amazing people at Northland. The people there are what made Northland special. I could go on and on about the countless people that have impacted my life and remain close friends. All of us were challenged by the word of God every day by people who genuinely cared for us. We were around gospel-centered people constantly and were loved by everyone on that campus. My life changed because of Northland and the people that were there. It's hard to hear about the adversity they are facing right now, but I'm thankful that the heart of Northland will never be closed. That university loved and served me well and in return I was taught how to serve and love others. I'm thankful for Northland.
Tuesday, April 14, 2015
3 W's of Relationships
In most cases, players have to walk together and work
together before they can win together.
Walking relationship - Initiate a walking
relationship with your teammates.
This is generally done off the court. What do you know about your
teammates? Their families? Their likes and dislikes? Their struggles? The
benefits of walking with your teammates include the biblical admonition of
"bearing one another's burdens." For you to know how to encourage
your teammates, you need to walk with
them. Criticism requires no relationship with the one you are targeting,
but if you walk with someone, you
will be inclined to encourage him rather than criticize him. In addition, those
who walk with someone else will also
be inclined to pray for him.
Working relationship - Cultivate a
working relationship with your teammates.
A walking relationship
with teammates facilitates a working relationship
with them. This dynamic generally happens in practices, in the weight room, on
the track, and wherever else you work
together. How much more inclined are we to work
hard with our teammates when we first walk
with them? Working together builds
unity, establishes trust, and defers our own interests to those of the
successes of our team. Do you like to go to work? If you say "yes," you like the players around you
and are willing to be patient with their weaknesses and embrace their strengths
for the benefit of team success.
Winning relationship - establish a
winning relationship with your teammates.
Contrary to "bottom line" enthusiasts, the scoreboard is
not the end-all in athletics. We are obligated in obedience to
"run, that we may obtain"[the prize]; however, many "wins"
exist apart from the final score.
Team goals that preclude a winning score are often "small
wins" that, in time, accumulate and ultimately translate into wins on the
scoreboard. These "small wins" share a common characteristic: teammates.
A winning relationship with fellow
teammates happens because the walking
and the working relationships have
already been established and are continually being enriched.
Now that we are in the off-season (on-season), individual workouts
take center stage. As you hone your skills, eliminate weaknesses, and strengthen your body during these months,
consider what steps you will take to walk
and work with your teammates. Have
you thought about initiating those first two w’s – walking and working -
with your teammates? Imagine what could happen if a team was already walking and working together going into next season! “Small wins” would
undoubtedly produce wins on the scoreboard. More importantly, the team would be able to fulfill its true
mission better than ever before: to use the platform of athletics in ministry
opportunities all around us. And it would be a true team effort!
This article was written by former BJU Bruins Assistant Coach, Larry Hunt.
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Wednesday, April 8, 2015
5 Things Every Coach Can Give His Kids
1. He/She Needs a Living Example
- Set the example for expressing emotions responsibly.
- Show them it's okay to be emotionally vulnerable. Don't shut down and don't shut them down.
- Research shows that most men are comfortable showing just one emotion - anger.
- Learn to regulate anger and other negative emotions.
- Set an example for what it means to respect women.
- Boys get most of their ideas about women and how to relate to women from their dad and key father figures
- Words and comments must communicate respect.
- Be the example of the kind of husband a girl should look for.
2. He/She Needs a Plan for the Future
- Vocational training
- Relationship training
- Rights of passage
- Skills, attitudes, and value planning
3. He/She Needs Moral Benchmarks
- Respect for authority
- Young men need to be held accountable
- They need to know the boundaries
4. He/She Needs a Respect and Purity Monitor
- You must be a respect and purity monitor
- Be sure to do everything you can to help him/her protect their innocence and purity
- Having integrity will carry them for a lifetime
5. He/She Needs Words of Comfort
- Allowing them to express their feelings
- Actively listening to them
- Responding with empathy
6. When a father or father figure is engaged, girls do better:
- More secure
- More confident
- Does better in math
- Likely to marry a man who has similar features as her dad
You can learn more about the National Center for Fathering at www.fathers.com
Monday, March 9, 2015
Remaining Content During the Coaching Carousel of March Madness
Be content. Every year, right around this time, I begin to dream my biggest dreams. It seems natural for a basketball coach to do a lot of dreaming during March Madness, doesn't it? I mean, every night there is a game on television that comes down to the buzzer when coaches & players run around like little kids, filled to the brim with excitement. I can't help but think about what it will be like when I get to experience those emotions someday. The emotions of winning a conference championship and earning a birth in the NCAA Tournament. The emotions of celebrating with young men who worked so hard for so long to achieve something together. The emotions of climbing a ladder and cutting down a small piece of net that symbolizes you are the best. The emotions of going into the locker room and realizing that we just accomplished something that very few people ever have the chance to do. I want to experience that someday! What coach doesn't?
It's no secret that I want to be a division 1 coach someday. In fact, I often times hold imaginary timeouts and pregame talks in my living room (when my wife isn't home) preparing myself for that moment when the game or our season is on the line. As seasons are coming to an end there are so many coaches on the move. Whether it's a promotion to a new job or getting fired from an old job, the coaching carousel at every level of college basketball is spinning fast this month. Who will get what job? Who do I know at that school? Who do I know that knows someone that knows someone? How can I break into this business? Be honest coaches - you all ask those questions trying to figure out how you could land a position. I'm guilty of it, especially this time of year. But I know that having a mindset of "what's next" isn't always the best one to have and I have learned (and continue to learn) how to deal with those emotions of trying to get the next job.
Currently, I am an assistant coach at Bob Jones University in Greenville, SC. It's a small school that is in only it's 3rd year of intercollegiate athletics. I have been here all 3 years and have enjoyed my part in building this program. I make a decent salary. I work for a great head coach. Our staff is wonderful. Our facilities are some of the best (if not the best) in the state of South Carolina. But I always find myself at this time of year asking, "what's next?" questioning if I truly am content in my current position. Why is that?
It's a constant battle to remain content. I have found that reading through Philippians 4 every March helps me understand God's call for me as a coach. I would highly recommend reading this regardless of your position, level, or circumstance in coaching. There are so many great things that Paul encourages us with as he writes. The first verse that always pops out to me is verse 4.
"Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, rejoice!"
- I'm reminded to find my joy in the Lord, not in my job, salary, or circumstance.
The second verse that always helps me and convicts me as a coach are verses 6-7. Paul tells us not to worry, but instead to pray and be thankful.
"Do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus."
- I'm reminded that I need to place everything in God's hands.
Then in verses 8-9 he tells us a list of good things to think on. If and when we think about these things he encourages us to put them into practice & God's peace will be given to us. That is so encouraging to me to know that God is on my side.
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me - practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you."
"Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, think about these things. What you have learned and received and heard and seen in me - practice these things, and the God of peace will be with you."
- I'm reminded that I need to keep my mind focused on things that are going to serve and help others around me.
The next section of the passage (verses 10-20) talk about how God will then provide for us. I'm always uplifted and rejuvenated after reading this, especially verses 11-13. The words in these verses make me thankful for a God who cares about me and always has my back.
"Not that I am speaking of being in need, for I have learned in whatever situation I am to be content. I know how to be brought low, and I know how to abound. In any and every circumstance, I have learned the secret of facing plenty and hunger, abundance and need. I can do all things through him who strengthens me."
- I'm reminded that even if I want to be coaching at a higher level - I need to be content where God has me because he is shaping me and growing me to become a great coach in the future. He gives us strength to be content.
It is so easy as a coach to always be looking for the next best thing, the greener pasture. My challenge that I place on myself is to focus on God and the list that Paul gave us to think about and let things fall into place. It is so easy to worry or be anxious about moving up the coaching ladder. Instead, I have learned to focus on being the best I can be in the current position that God has placed me in. It's not always easy, but it's necessary. Embrace the current process and do things daily that will continue to make you better. I'm confident that if God wants me in another position he will open the door, but until that happens I need to continue to be content where I'm at. I'm thankful that God has placed me at a great university with great people.
If you are a young coach looking for a job, a current coach looking to move up, or an old coach that may have just been fired - read Philippians 4 and meditate on the truths and promises that God gives us when it comes to being content. It's powerful and I truly believe that God blesses us when we find contentment in Him!
Happy March Madness.
Thursday, December 18, 2014
Who Can Lead?
"Leadership is the ability to get individuals to work together for the common good and the best possible results while at the same time letting them know they did it themselves.
Some people are automatic leaders. Some can never be leaders. But many who don't think of themselves as leaders have the potential to become such if they understand the fundamentals of getting individuals to work together."
An excerpt from "Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court" by John Wooden
Some people are automatic leaders. Some can never be leaders. But many who don't think of themselves as leaders have the potential to become such if they understand the fundamentals of getting individuals to work together."
An excerpt from "Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court" by John Wooden
Thursday, December 11, 2014
Eight Suggestions for Succeeding
If you are wanting to be a great leader and a great coach, the first book you should read is "Wooden: A Lifetime of Observations and Reflections On and Off the Court" by Coach John Wooden. This was the first book that I read while in middle school that really ignited the passion for me to coach. In it, there are so many valuable nuggets that represent wisdom and knowledge of not only basketball, but every aspect of life. One of the lessons in the book is a list of his "Eight Suggestions for Succeeding" and it reads like this:
1. Fear no opponent. Respect every opponent.
2. Remember, it's the perfection of the smallest details that make big things happen.
3. Keep in mind that hustle makes up for many a mistake.
4. Be more interested in character than reputation.
5. Be quick, but don't hurry.
6. Understand that the harder you work, the more luck you will have.
7. Know that valid self-analysis is crucial for improvement.
8. Remember that there is no substitute for hard work and careful planning. Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.
Buy this book here.
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1. Fear no opponent. Respect every opponent.
2. Remember, it's the perfection of the smallest details that make big things happen.
3. Keep in mind that hustle makes up for many a mistake.
4. Be more interested in character than reputation.
5. Be quick, but don't hurry.
6. Understand that the harder you work, the more luck you will have.
7. Know that valid self-analysis is crucial for improvement.
8. Remember that there is no substitute for hard work and careful planning. Failing to prepare is preparing to fail.
Buy this book here.
Follow @CoachWingreen on Twitter!
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