5 Things Every Coach Can Give His Kids

One of my favorite parts of the Final Four is the opportunity to learn how to become a better husband and father through various ministries and workshops.  This past weekend, Carey Casey shared with us "5 Things Every Coach Can Give His Kids," which I thought was very good and wanted to share it.  Casey is the CEO of the National Center for Fathering.  Here are the notes that he gave us at the NABC Convention in Indianapolis.





1. He/She Needs a Living Example

• Set the example for expressing emotions responsibly.

         - Show them it's okay to be emotionally vulnerable.  Don't shut down and don't shut them down.
         - Research shows that most men are comfortable showing just one emotion - anger.
         - Learn to regulate anger and other negative emotions.

• Set an example for what it means to respect women.

         - Boys get most of their ideas about women and how to relate to women from their dad and key father figures

          - Words and comments must communicate respect.

• Be the example of the kind of husband a girl should look for.

2. He/She Needs a Plan for the Future

• Vocational training
• Relationship training
• Rights of passage
• Skills, attitudes, and value planning

3. He/She Needs Moral Benchmarks

• Respect for authority
• Young men need to be held accountable
• They need to know the boundaries

4. He/She Needs a Respect and Purity Monitor

• You must be a respect and purity monitor
• Be sure to do everything you can to help him/her protect their innocence and purity
• Having integrity will carry them for a lifetime

5. He/She Needs Words of Comfort

• Allowing them to express their feelings
• Actively listening to them
• Responding with empathy

6. When a father or father figure is engaged, girls do better:

• More secure
• More confident
• Does better in math
• Likely to marry a man who has similar features as her dad

You can learn more about the National Center for Fathering at www.fathers.com